The Game
A conversation format for two to promote connection and wellbeing.
This “game” is best played at regular, predetermined intervals, generally daily at the start. This enforces a commitment to one another. After you’ve shifted whatever is upsetting the applecart, you may commit to weekly. Eventually, you may schedule monthly, and ultimately as needed, meaning either of you can call forth a round when a situation arises.
How to play: Take turns answering each of these questions. After an answer is given, the other partner says what they heard. If clarification is needed, partner one expands upon what they said and partner two again says what they heard. Go back and forth until partner one feels they were heard and understood. Then partner two takes their turn in the same way. Rotate who begins each question.
The prompts:
Share something positive about the other. Examples: “That felt like an act of love when I came home and you had unloaded the dishwasher.” Or, “I noticed you really handled that situation with your brother well. I was so proud of you.”
News. This can an be something you just heard or something you’ve been meaning to share with them.
A question. Any kind. Just something you’d like to hear the answer to! 😉
Request for change. Examples: “It would mean a lot to me if you’d put your coffee mug in the dishwasher rather than leaving it in the sink.” Or, “I’d really like you to say you love me every time we are parting.”
Wishes, hopes, and dreams. This can be personal or for the relationship. Example: “I really hope we can someday take an Alaskan Cruise together. I’d like to have uninterrupted time with you and share the experience of seeing such a magnificent place together.” Or, “I’m dreaming that I can be part of a group of women that creates a healing retreat center and here are some of the things I’m seeing in regards to that…”
